No matter what stage of life we are in, we all have goals and want to change ourselves for the better. But have you ever tried to get hot for three minutes whenever you make up your mind to study or work, and then you want to give up after a period of persistence, or have you been hesitant, and you don’t know where to start? I am a second-year student at a British university, majoring in marketing, and I will graduate and join the society in one year. People like me who are about to finish their academic career can't help but feel lost and don't know what to do in the future. Here I would like to share the three suggestions from the author about habits in Habits Grow Rich. According to a Duke University study in the Journal of Psychological Science, 40% activities in daily life are habit-derived. Over hundreds of years of evolution, neurons in the brain repeatedly talk to each other to reduce the body's energy expenditure, forming habits over time. In other words, nearly half of the day is subconscious behavior. If there are more good habits than bad habits, life will be good and we will be happy, and vice versa. Therefore, I hope that by sharing the methods of cultivating habits, I can help you gradually build up your self-confidence and find a suitable direction for you in the future.

1. Define your dreams

If you don't even know your dreams, you can't realize your dreams. So, we need to set a dream, and the whole process is actually very simple, there are only two steps:
Step 1: Set a blueprint for your ideal life. Think about it, what constitutes a perfect life as you define it? The income you want to earn, the environment you live in, your life with your partner, the wealth you accumulate, etc. The details of each dream are described in as much detail as possible.
Step 2: Establish the goals you need to achieve your dreams. When you have a list of clear dreams, establish specific goals for each dream, i.e., the action steps that must be taken to achieve each dream. For example, for now, my dream is to successfully graduate with First class honors in college, then the daily goal is that for the next six months, I will force myself to concentrate on studying for three hours a day; the monthly goal is to A grade point average of 70% or above in the essay. Writing down all our dreams and short-term goals on a sticky note helps us force ourselves to take responsibility, remind ourselves that everything is on track, and have a clear reason to fight.

2. Ask an experienced tutor

Asking parents, supervisors, teachers is the fastest path to success, mentors teach us what to do and what not to do, and share valuable lessons learned through adversity. Taking myself as an example, it is difficult for them to provide professional advice because there are no elders around me who are engaged in the marketing industry. If you are ready to join this industry, you can also learn about related websites in your spare time. Happytime The course is more clear about the specific work of marketing. Book an appointment with an experienced digital marketing professor to learn about the main job content of digital marketing. Enrolling in the course can better familiarize yourself with the actual operation of the industry. Of course, you can also take action yourself and keep challenging yourself to learn what works, but you will pay for the time and money to learn. By contrast, finding a successful mentor and learning from their mistakes is the easiest way.

3. Write down your feelings and worries every day

Have you ever thought that procrastination is actually related to self-confidence? Whenever we procrastinate, one of the main factors is that we don't believe in our own abilities. For people who are accustomed to procrastination, because they do not know how much time and energy they actually need to spend to complete the work, they hesitate to act, and every moment of hesitation will only reduce the time to deal with the work, and it is really too late in the end. Going to complete it will lower your evaluation of yourself, and it will form a vicious circle over and over again. To break this cycle of low self-confidence, we need to communicate within ourselves. Spend about 15 minutes a day thinking about what you have to worry about, and when you have to do it, list it as a daily goal and remind yourself every day to beat that pesky procrastination.

Once, I was used to procrastinating and escaping both in my studies and in life. When I was in my first year of college, when the semester was about to end, I remembered that I had to stay up all night to prepare a bunch of exams and reports, and I had to start paying attention to my internship work. With so many things to deal with, you get frustrated and don't want to deal with it. You might be thinking, "Isn't there a big problem with procrastinating?" Absolutely. To others, procrastination reduces our credibility with family, friends, co-workers, bosses, etc. It also reduces the quality of work, and long-term procrastination labels us untrustworthy and incompetent; for ourselves, procrastinating on things we don’t want to do but must do creates feelings of fear and pain, plus we procrastinate The resulting consequences will make us tremble all day long, think negatively for a long time, but do nothing. So, after failing again and again, and often letting myself and others down, I couldn't stand the powerlessness and fear, and I decided to use some methods to help myself take action. In the beginning, as described in the book, feel your inner voice first, and you will gradually become aware of every source of stress in yourself, which is what worries you, and then write down a to-do list (this can be the long-term goals mentioned above or daily tasks), which makes your heart try to take action instead of procrastinating.

I understand that it takes time to get used to, but as long as I develop the mentality to act now, I can slowly overcome my fear, because my inner unease will be replaced by a sense of success, and I will feel that I can gradually control my life. As long as you have the first success, you can accumulate a little confidence and gradually become a confident person.

About the Author
Hugo Wong University sophomore majoring in marketing

"One Mosquito Party", have you heard of it? In the early Hong Kong machine shops, when a player put down $1 on the table, it indicated that he was in line, waiting to play the game until the game was over, or he wanted to challenge the player who was playing. With this belief, I challenge myself to take action on my dreams, build confidence and control my life little by little through successful experiences. During the past two years, I have tried different jobs, such as participating in the production of online short films, including editing and screenwriting. In the future, intend to develop in the industry of marketing or media public relations. Contact: Instagram: chaiyumnam Gmail: wongkwok0000@gmail.com